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The Power of Time


Once time’s lost, you can’t get it back. Save time rather than try to catch up.

Get on with your work young man! Face your business young woman!
The antidote for poverty is diligent purposeful work!

Get started with your dream, you don’t have eternity to work on it!

Snap out of ‘future’ talking! Today is the future you thought about five years ago! What’s going to be your past in five years time?

Regret? Accomplishment? Freedom financially, academically and spiritually?

Think and Act!

 

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Sunshine within your clouds


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Ever wondered why it feels so dark?

To help you feel better, always remember that the sun always shows up, come rain come night!

Never give up, always believe the best.

 

The choice for change


Respond to your conscience and meet a need. Find your voice in inspiring others to find theirs.

A few of us can do great things but all of us can do little things with great love – Mother Theresa

 

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Writing – my inhuman hearthrob


Being able to express yourself in written words is perhaps one of the most treasured arts of mankind.

You search deep down for priceless information, dispelling your feelings and emotions. Your inner strength is strengthened even more because your sense of abundance increases. It is personal and private but cannot and should not be kept inside.

It’s a private gift for public consumption. A paradox, writers are yet to unravel…

Are you a writer? What are your own views on your writing passion?

 
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Posted by on March 1, 2011 in Lifestyle, Training and advice

 

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Bringing back the Happy Memories of the Family


 

To relive a memorable event:

- Write down your feelings about the event.
Ask yourself – Was it Estatic, Gleeful, Hilarious, Thrilling, Overwhelming, Dumbfounding, Calming, Refreshing, Re-energising, ….
–  Is it a regular event, i.e, will it happen again? Write your feelings about it if it will. (Are you expectant, anxious it’d go wrong next time, excited, etc…)

- If it is not a regular event, did you take pictures or video shots of the event? 

-  What was the event? Was it impromptu like a discussion in a christmas reunion that ended pleasingly well? Try to recall what made it go well, write it down. Do the others feel the same way about the event?

- If it was photo- or videographed do you have it handy? Do you know who might if you don’t?

-Get a hold of any pictures or videos, tickets, or memorable item that you can lay hold of and put them all in a safe place – a shoe box would do!

-Make copies of all – take pictures of items, scan existing pictures, upload videos, and you may put these all in one video only using a webcam and your computer.

- Return all borrowed pictures or items intact to any family or friends present during the event.

- Watch the video from time to time – invite others present to do this with you. You may also show it on important events like the next christmas reunion or a main character’s birthday get together.

In conclusion,  gather your thoughts and write them down. It is possible to forget or have an overlapping memory of what really happened if you don’t do this. Collect  copies of everything that can remind you about the event- Get others’ input as well.

Be careful to ask around if others enjoyed the event like you – It’d be awkward to be excited about something others loathe – especially if you want to relive it as a family. Also ask yourself if it is appropriate to relive it? It is important if it involved a deceased family member. Reliving certain events could stunt the healing process of loss.

Copyright – Tola Jegede

 

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Coping with your Child’s Anger Problem


Identify what stirs your child’s anger – ask them, study them, ask other adults that know them. If your child has a patterned anger problem try to relieve the child of the motions – don’t force them to sit where they don’t want if it always creates a problem, except of course, it’s diaper changing battle like my niece. Create a strategy around it, play their favourite music but be firm about what needs to be done etc. The same goes for older children. Have a hearty talk more often. It helps.
#  Write down what they detest the most or are irritated by (it would be a disaster if you forgot). Ask yourself how you can work around them – a little like a compromise – without spoiling them.
#  Ask them about their own opinions about talking with you, and verbally expressing themselves as a compromise for their own demands.
#  Children naturally (like some adults) can be selfish sometimes so use wisdom to help them see the benefits of expressing themselves without flaring up. If they don’t want ketchup, this does not mean that the bowl of chips has to suffer for it!
#  Occasionally hold back on gifts or other good stuff until they have corrected something that happened as a result of their anger. Don’t cuddle them while ‘sibling Sally’ is still sobbing under the table, get them to hug or apologise to people every time their wires cross.
#  Let them know the effects that excessive and uncontrolled anger has on others. This helps them take responsibility for their actions. You may tell them that it makes people have a negative perception of them.
#  Repeatedly tell them about the effects of anger on you and others around them every time they misbehave until they can recite it! It’d stick one day.

REMEMBER:

*Observe and note what triggers their anger
*Deal with anger yourself – try not to get wound up by their attitude
*Be patient to learn about their needs and how to help them out of anger
*Be firm to stop them in their tracks
*Always nip rising anger in the bud before it becomes rage.

  • It may not be as easy, but stick with a/your plan
  • Believe the best of your child, even adults throw tantrums.

 
 

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Developing your Child’s Problem Solving Skills


Looking to help your child develop life skills? Wonder why your child still doesn’t know how to behave when they meet obstacles? And you can’t fathom what difference school makes in helping them reason out of difficult issues? Look no further!

#  Depending on your child’s age ask these questions:
#* What happens to you if you left your homework at home and what would you do about it?
#* If you found out that your friend said something about you  that you didn’t like what would you do?
#  Give them series of scenarios to think through asking them to give solutions for each, encourage more than one option from their solution bank.
#  Be ready to spend time with them.
#  Help them narrow down from their many options to just a few and let them choose
#  Guide them to give the most reasonable answer to solving the problem – (not including punching back another child when they are punched!)
#  Encourage writing, brainstorming and research – including asking others, using questionnaires, text-book/library use and rarely (depending on their age), the internet. By using other means than the internet, they would learn to sort out information – the internet does this automatically.

*  Your child may not understand the process but you need to keep being consistent.
*  Don’t ignore their achievements, celebrate them!
*  Encourage them to use their newly found PROBLEM SOLVING skills in daily issues.

 
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Posted by on December 29, 2010 in Change Agent and Development

 

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